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October 7, 2014

10 Principles To Help Kids Make WISE Choices

We all want our kids to be wise.  We train them, talk to them, model for them, do everything we can to instill Godly wisdom and practical intelligence in their minds.  We spend eighteen years (sometimes more) monitoring their every move, correcting when necessary, and preparing for the day we will set them free to go out into the world and make a life of their own. We hope and trust that the scripture we have quoted numerous times throughout our trials and tribulations of parenthood will come true: “Train up a child in the way he should go and […]
September 10, 2014

A Helpful Resource To Help Teach Young Children About Creation

Throughout their academic life, children will have to face the onslaught of scientific theories, teachers, professors, and peers who will pressure them into leaving behind the "primitive and uneducated" belief that Earth was created by Almighty God.  A recent Gallup poll reveals that over 60% of Americans believe in the theory of evolution - many of them believing that it is the PRIMARY explanation for where life on Earth comes from.   Earlier this year, Ken Ham, a well-known Christian apologist debated the outspoken evolutionist, Bill Nye (the Science Guy).  It was a classic  (and public) Creation-versus-Evolution debate.  Nye is more […]
September 7, 2014

How To Handle Parents Who Don't Attend Your Church

Some time ago, one of the children who attends our church (but his parents do not) told me, "I didn’t come last week because my dad doesn't think it’s important.” I recognized what he was doing.  I asked him, “Did your dad actually say that he doesn't think church is important?” The boy said, “Well, no, but since he didn’t bring me, he must have something against me coming.” I quickly responded, “Wait a minute.  We can’t draw that conclusion.  Give your dad a break.  I’m sure he was just busy and couldn’t make his schedule work out.  After all, […]
August 13, 2014

What If Your Family Were Shot With 3,192 Paintballs In 5.3 Seconds?

This would be a ludicrous question - if it hadn't actually happened to this family!  It was all done to prove a point - a POWERFUL point!  Watch below and you will understand what I mean... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B7t85SESTXI#t=100 Movies these days are often filled with gratuitous language, violence, nudity, and suggestive material.  It can be almost impossible for the family to sit down and watch a movie together without being subjected to all of this content.  Well, the people over at VidAngel have innovated the Family Movie Night.  They have introduced a streaming service that allows YOU to be in control of […]
August 4, 2014

Talking To Kids About SEX

There is a long held belief in many circles that there are certain subjects that should not be mentioned at church or from the pulpit.  They are “reserved for the home.”  There are two problems with that whole frame of reference. Shouldn’t SEX Talk Be Reserved For The Home? 1)     SEX was created by God. The idea that sex should not be discussed in church flies in the face of the fact that SEX is a beautiful gift, created by God, for the purpose of giving a husband and wife an intimate physical way of connecting and expressing their love […]
May 6, 2014

How To Talk To Kids About DEATH And TRAGEDY

I remember exactly where I was the day the Columbine Massacre happened in 1999.  I couldn’t believe the news.  Never before had we seen that kind of devastation and tragedy on a school campus.  Years later, I remember exactly where I was the moment I learned of the horrific tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut.  I was shocked at the death toll, rocked by the devastation that had been caused by this killer who took the lives and futures of so many innocent children. Perhaps you remember the thoughts that went through your mind.  Like many, you might have had the thought, […]
March 14, 2014

These Parents Have A Case Of Brain "Freeze" (FUN FRIDAY)

It's FUN FRIDAY, everybody! I don't know about the kids in YOUR community, but all of my kids are obsessed with "FROZEN." I admit, I liked the movie. I loved the music. I did fall asleep in the middle of it, but that happens to me in just about every movie I see (turn off the lights and I am out). These parents were on a road trip with their young daughter. What ensues is a definite case of brain "freeze." They starting enjoying themselves a little too much as they sang "Love Is An Open Door." Keep a sharp […]
January 29, 2014

Disney Channel Introduces First Lesbian Couple On A Kids' Show

Yesterday, I posted on my Facebook page a link to an article about Disney Channel introducing it's first lesbian couple on a kids' show.  My goal was to share something that many may not have been aware of and to see what parents and Kids Ministry leaders thought about this decision by Disney and their show, "Good Luck, Charlie."  I got a lot of reaction - on both sides of the issue. Rather than respond to each comment, I thought it would be better if I fleshed out my thoughts here on the blog.  So, here are my random thoughts […]
January 19, 2014

How To Talk To Kids About God

Recently, I spoke to our entire congregation about "How To Talk To Kids About God."  It seems that parents and grandparents have mystified the idea of having spiritual conversations about God.  They feel that they must have a Bachelor's Degree in Children's Education in order to have the expertise necessary to speak clearly to their children about the things of God. Unfortunately, we are often to blame.  For too long, the Church (and Children's Ministry Leaders specifically) has poised itself as "the official spiritual trainer of children."  This is definite far from the Biblical case that I lay out in the […]
December 20, 2013

FUN FRIDAY: Coca Cola Parenthood Ad

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4sNlcwAh83Y If you haven't seen this ad by now, you owe it to yourself to watch!  It's a very real-to-life portrayal of the unpredictable roller-coaster that is Parenthood.  It will have you laughing and warm your heart all within one minute. It's a great reminder to those of us in Kids Ministry as well.  Kids Ministry is not all "neat and tidy."  Sometimes it can be a really messy job (and not only because of the messes that little ones can make).  In the end, the result is the JOY of knowing that you are affecting a life for eternity.  […]
December 5, 2013

Eight Effective Ways To Partner With Parents

Family Ministry is slowly becoming the norm rather than the exception in the nation's growing churches.  Kids Ministry Leaders are finally coming to the realization that God has not called them to be the "Superhero" and primary spiritual in the lives of the children in their church.  Instead, they are recognizing the need to partner with parents, equipping them to step into their God-given role as primary spiritual leaders in the lives of their kids. You may ask, "But how?"  Many churches WANT to start this process of partnering with parents, but just have no idea where to start.  While […]
November 25, 2013

Why I Won't Pray The "Sinner's Prayer" With Your Child

If you have been in Kids Ministry for very long, no doubt you have encountered this scenario already.  Church is over, a parent walks up and says, "Johnny was asking me questions about how to get saved last night.  Would you explain what salvation is all about and pray with him to receive Christ?”  For many years, I have the standard answer... "No, I won't." Now that you've decided I am a terrible Kids Pastor, let me explain.  When I first began in Kids Ministry, I would have answered differently.  After all, I was the resident "expert" on children’s spiritual […]
October 24, 2013

They Are Not JUST Kids!

My friend, Mike Johnson (Director of Childhood Leadership Development at Fellowship Church in Grapevine, TX) recently posted this message.  It is a powerful reminder that every parent has the small window of opportunity to impact their kids for the Kingdom.  In fact, the window is even smaller than you might think.  Enjoy this message from Mike and be CHALLENGED to make the most of every opportunity you have with the children you serve! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEsqAs_LiZY#t=17
October 16, 2013

My Child Was Caught Looking At Pornography! What Do I Do?

I received a tough email from a ministry friend this week.  It said, "I found out Sunday night that an 11 year old girl from my children's church is addicted to porn. I am totally shocked because she seemed so quiet and shy, I would like to know how to approach her and minister to her." Unfortunately, this is a situation that happens more often than we would like to admit.  With the literal explosion of technology (including hand-held mobile devices) in the world of kids in the last five years, children are being exposed (sometimes even accidentally through pop-ups […]
September 30, 2013

How To Improve Safety And Security In Your Kids Ministry

One of the greatest needs and focuses of any Kids Ministry should be that of safety and security.  After all, we are entrusted with the most precious lives that mean the world to every parent who drops them off in our care.  If we do not do our due diligence in providing a safe a secure environment for the children, then we are not demonstrating the value that we claim to place on them. Many of you are aware of my friends at KidCheck.  Well, they have developed a powerful child safety video and guide for organizations caring for children.  […]
July 3, 2013

New "Kid Bible Heroes" App - Kids Just Can't Put It Down!

The Kid Bible Heroes interactive app for kids features youngsters living out grown-up faith that will build your kids’ trust in God. Each narrated Bible story pauses for games, fun sound effects and interactive animation. Available in English, Spanish and Portuguese. With the Kid Bible Heroes app, your kids can learn about ordinary kids in the Bible who were used by God to do extraordinary things.  The app features five Bible stories about everyday heroes like David, Miriam, Samuel, Mary, and the young boy with the fishes and loaves.  Through their interactive stories, your kids will learn about God's plan […]
June 27, 2013

Should Kids Pastors Talk To Their Groups About "Gay Marriage"?

With the news yesterday of the Supreme Court striking down the "Defense Of Marriage Act", the topic of "Gay Marriage" is once again a major story in the news.  No doubt, our kids are hearing all about this topic both on the TV and, many times, on the playground.  It's hard for a Christian parent to control the context in which their child may have conversations regarding this important topic. I received a question yesterday from a fellow Kids Pastor asking my opinion on whether or not he should "address" his Kids Ministry on the topic of Gay Marriage and/or […]
August 9, 2012

Helping Parents Talk To Their Kids About SEX

For too long, the church has been silent on the issue of SEX.  Children (and adults alike) hear little to nothing on the subject of healthy sexuality from the church.  Part of the reason it is not spoken about from the pulpit is that it makes us uncomfortable.  It makes us uncomfortable because it rarely brought up in the pulpit.  It's a self-perpetuating cycle, so we consider it off limits. Many parents are so paranoid about their kids becoming sexually active, they foolishly think that by not approaching the subject of sex for as long as possible, they will somehow […]
July 26, 2012

Helping Parents Talk To Their Kids About God

I have recently started a teaching series at our church called "How To Talk To Your Kids About..."  In this series, I am hoping to help parents engage in meaningful conversations with their kids about some very BIG and important subjects.  I thought it might be helpful if I shared some of these teachings with my blog readers. Feel free to use it to teach the parents of the children in your ministry  about the importance of having meaningful GOD conversations with their kids. “How To Talk To Your Kids About…God” My Mistake:  Not recognizing the role of parents as […]