parenting

August 9, 2015

The Two Most Important Words A Parent Can Say

Words have power!  They can either lift up or they can tear down!  They can either raise our child's self-esteem or they can destroy it. There are a LOT of words we use as a parent.  Five words I find myself uttering often are, "Go Clean Your Room, Now!"  Three words my kids need to hear every day are, "I Love You!" But, did you know that there are TWO WORDS that, when strung together in a sentence, can create a powerful bond between parent and child?  In fact, these two words are SO powerful that those who refuse to […]
August 2, 2015

Every Conversation Is A Spiritual Conversation

In my twenty-three years as a kids’ pastor, I can’t tell you how many times a parent has walked up to me after church and asked, “My son was asking me questions about baptism last night.  Would you meet with him to explain what water baptism is all about?”  I’ve received countless emails that say something like, “My daughter asked me what it means to be saved.  I don’t want to confuse her, so can I set her up an appointment with you this week?  I’m sure you can explain it better than I can.”  Parents have asked me to […]
July 26, 2015

Don't Miss The Cues (VIDEO)

Our kids WANT to talk.  Sometimes, the reason they don’t is because REAL conversation with Mom or Dad isn’t something that they do often.  But, it’s not always THEIR choice.   Too many parents don’t recognize the cues that their children give that are a clear declaration of, “I really want to talk.” Many times our kids want to talk about things that haven’t crossed our minds. Instead of always being focused on the task in front of us or what’s on the radio while we’re driving, parents need to look for the open doors of conversation that their kids are […]
July 15, 2015

MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT About My New Book

I have been working the last two years on my new book, "Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics."  I firmly believe this book is going to be a GAME CHANGER for all Christian Parents! Children today are being bombarded by messages that are contrary to what the Bible teaches. Parents (and grandparents who are now parenting their grandkids) feel completely overwhelmed as they try to navigate the difficult waters of conversation with their kids about very difficult topics.  That’s why I wrote this book!  To help parents and grandparents lead kids through topics like […]
June 22, 2015

The Two Most Powerful Words A Parent Can Say

Parents mess up.  ALL parents mess up.  Even deeply committed Christian parents mess up.  But, not all parents are willing to admit it.  Two of the most wonderful words children of all ages can hear from parents are, “I'm sorry."  These are also two of the most difficult words for parents to say. Too often, we wrongly believe that in order to have the "upper hand" as a parent, we must be seen as infallible.  We must never admit our mistakes for fear it will show weakness to our children, and they will try to exploit it.  Parents who believe […]
May 26, 2015

1 BIG Reason Why Your Kids Won't Listen

"I am so sick and tired of my child not listening to me!  I try my hardest to share my wisdom with them in order to help them avoid pain in life, and they completely tune me out!"  Ever said those words?  If so, you are like MOST parents.  So many parents feel like they have more success talking to a brick wall than to their child (especially their teenager).  Part of the reason for that is the tendency for parents to "talk down" to their kids. One of the most important principles about talking with kids is to avoid being […]
April 27, 2015

Parents Allow Four Year Old Girl To Become A Boy

Meet "Jacob."  Born as a beautiful baby girl named Mia, "Jacob" began expressing the desire to be a boy.  Mia didn't like dressing like a girl or being called a girl.  So, after a period of painful, thoughtful deliberation, Mia's parents decided to help her transition to a boy.  My heart breaks for the family, as I am certain this decision was very difficult for them.  You can watch a video of their entire story HERE. Transgender children are becoming more and more common.  I don't pretend to be an expert on the subject, but I do want to ask a few […]
October 7, 2014

10 Principles To Help Kids Make WISE Choices

We all want our kids to be wise.  We train them, talk to them, model for them, do everything we can to instill Godly wisdom and practical intelligence in their minds.  We spend eighteen years (sometimes more) monitoring their every move, correcting when necessary, and preparing for the day we will set them free to go out into the world and make a life of their own. We hope and trust that the scripture we have quoted numerous times throughout our trials and tribulations of parenthood will come true: “Train up a child in the way he should go and […]
April 22, 2014

Can I Be A Good Dad & Pastor?

GUEST POST by Michael Bayne (of ParentMinistry.net) This is a post that I struggle writing because there is no way I am getting nominated for “Dad of the Year.”  I am learning on the go the same way all the rest of you are as parents.  The question I am wrestling with is can I be a good pastor and dad? I ask the question because I know every pastor, minister, and lead volunteer out there wonders if they are giving the best they have to the ministry they lead at church and ministry God has given them at home.  […]
January 29, 2014

Disney Channel Introduces First Lesbian Couple On A Kids' Show

Yesterday, I posted on my Facebook page a link to an article about Disney Channel introducing it's first lesbian couple on a kids' show.  My goal was to share something that many may not have been aware of and to see what parents and Kids Ministry leaders thought about this decision by Disney and their show, "Good Luck, Charlie."  I got a lot of reaction - on both sides of the issue. Rather than respond to each comment, I thought it would be better if I fleshed out my thoughts here on the blog.  So, here are my random thoughts […]
October 16, 2013

My Child Was Caught Looking At Pornography! What Do I Do?

I received a tough email from a ministry friend this week.  It said, "I found out Sunday night that an 11 year old girl from my children's church is addicted to porn. I am totally shocked because she seemed so quiet and shy, I would like to know how to approach her and minister to her." Unfortunately, this is a situation that happens more often than we would like to admit.  With the literal explosion of technology (including hand-held mobile devices) in the world of kids in the last five years, children are being exposed (sometimes even accidentally through pop-ups […]
April 1, 2013

Book Review: "Connecting Church & Home" by Dr. Tim Kimmel

"Strong churches don't make strong families.  Strong families make strong churches." - Dr. Tim Kimmel What is the center of your Family Ministry strategy?  Is it safety and protection from the dark influences of this world?  Is it reaching unchurched families through evangelism?  What drives your ministry to kids and families? Dr. Tim Kimmel offers a one word answer in his new book, "Connecting Church & Home." That one word:  GRACE.  Dr. Kimmel suggests that God's grace can and should be what encompasses everything we do as a church - especially ministering to families. Kimmel begins with the book with a challenging […]