communication

October 4, 2017

Communicating So Kids WANT To Listen (FREE VIDEO LESSON )

I am super pumped to share this FREE video lesson with you!  How would you like to learn some of the great principles and practices used by some of the most dynamic and effective communicators? Well, now you can!  In this video, I share some of the best tips and practices that I have learned in my 25 years of Kids Ministry!  It's a FREE video lesson from my Online Video Course called: "ACCELERATE: Boosting Your Ministry Effectiveness."   Here's the FREE VIDEO LESSON: [vimeo id="234919493"] Want MORE helpful videos like this?  You can find them in my  Online Video Course […]
August 9, 2015

The Two Most Important Words A Parent Can Say

Words have power!  They can either lift up or they can tear down!  They can either raise our child's self-esteem or they can destroy it. There are a LOT of words we use as a parent.  Five words I find myself uttering often are, "Go Clean Your Room, Now!"  Three words my kids need to hear every day are, "I Love You!" But, did you know that there are TWO WORDS that, when strung together in a sentence, can create a powerful bond between parent and child?  In fact, these two words are SO powerful that those who refuse to […]
July 15, 2015

MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT About My New Book

I have been working the last two years on my new book, "Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics."  I firmly believe this book is going to be a GAME CHANGER for all Christian Parents! Children today are being bombarded by messages that are contrary to what the Bible teaches. Parents (and grandparents who are now parenting their grandkids) feel completely overwhelmed as they try to navigate the difficult waters of conversation with their kids about very difficult topics.  That’s why I wrote this book!  To help parents and grandparents lead kids through topics like […]
June 22, 2015

The Two Most Powerful Words A Parent Can Say

Parents mess up.  ALL parents mess up.  Even deeply committed Christian parents mess up.  But, not all parents are willing to admit it.  Two of the most wonderful words children of all ages can hear from parents are, “I'm sorry."  These are also two of the most difficult words for parents to say. Too often, we wrongly believe that in order to have the "upper hand" as a parent, we must be seen as infallible.  We must never admit our mistakes for fear it will show weakness to our children, and they will try to exploit it.  Parents who believe […]
May 1, 2015

Are You Teaching Your Kids A False Gospel?

I am at Awana's "Vantage Conference" and had the privilege of listening to a legend of Children's Ministry, Phil Vischer (creator of Veggie Tales and What's In The Bible?).  Phil told a story that gripped my heart. Ted Turner (media mogul and founder of CNN & TBS) is an outspoken critic of Christianity.  Most people know this.  In 1990, speaking before the American Humanist Association, Turner proclaimed that "Christianity is for losers"...and this isn't nearly the most provocative thing he has said about Christians.  Many know this about Turner, but not many know the story behind his anti-religous sentiment. Ted Turner dreamed […]
June 25, 2014

VIDEO - "How To Communicate So Kids Want To Listen"

There's nothing worse than trying to communicate to a group of kids who aren't paying any attention to you.  As a matter of fact, if they aren't listening - then you aren't really communicating!  In this teaching, I share some of the things I have learned when it comes to communicating to kids in large groups, small groups, and one-on-one.  I pray it is helpful to you! https://vimeo.com/98355521 If you like this video, please do me a favor.  Leave a comment below.  Which of the pointers I shared made the biggest impact for you?  What is ONE THING you can do starting […]
May 6, 2014

How To Talk To Kids About DEATH And TRAGEDY

I remember exactly where I was the day the Columbine Massacre happened in 1999.  I couldn’t believe the news.  Never before had we seen that kind of devastation and tragedy on a school campus.  Years later, I remember exactly where I was the moment I learned of the horrific tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut.  I was shocked at the death toll, rocked by the devastation that had been caused by this killer who took the lives and futures of so many innocent children. Perhaps you remember the thoughts that went through your mind.  Like many, you might have had the thought, […]
April 28, 2014

Are You An Effective Communicator?

I was in a meeting the other day where the presenter had a lot of good information.  It was strong stuff.  However, I looked around the room and noticed - NOBODY is listening!  They were all on their phones, checking email, daydreaming, or doodling.  It wasn't because the presenter didn't have good, solid information to share.  It was because he was a POOR communicator.  If he had put half as much effort into his presentation as he obviously had in researching his info, it would have turned out much differently. When you step in front of a group (whether that […]
April 15, 2014

Should I Tell My Pastor About This?

"Should I tell my Lead Pastor About This NOW or LATER?" It's a question that most staff members struggle with.  "When is the right time to share information with my Lead Pastor?"  Naturally, you don't want to be a pest and "bother" him.  At the same time, you don't want to hold onto information that may be vital to the church for a long time and deprive him of the opportunity to respond in an appropriate way in the appropriate time. Here is a good list to follow when deciding "Should I tell my Lead Pastor About This NOW or LATER?" that […]
January 10, 2014

FUN FRIDAY: "It's Not About The Nail!"

This is one of the funniest videos I have ever seen.  I was reminded of it last night at an event I attended, so I wanted to share it with those of you who may not have seen it yet.  It is certainly something that EVERY man can relate to.  A word of advice:  "Don't try to fix it, just listen."  (if only I would heed my own advice more often, LOL) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
June 24, 2013

3 Tips To Help You Be The WORST Leader You Can Be

There are so many posts and books about "How To Be A Better Leader."  I've written a few and have read even more.  So, I thought I would take a different route and give you a couple of tips on how to be a bad leader - in fact, the WORST leader you can be! 1)  Be Unpredictable If you want to be a bad leader, make it hard for your team to know what you want, what you think, or what mood you will be in.  Volunteers hate it when they have to guess what you feel is the […]
July 2, 2012

It's Not WHAT You Say, It's HOW You Say It

Words are powerful tools in the hands of a Kidmin Leader.  You can use them either intentionally or haphazardly.  It is important to remember when typing an email, crafting a letter to parents, or putting together a promotional piece for your next big event - words matter. Zig Ziglar, a legendary motivational speaker, gave an unforgettable example of the power of emphasis.  By changing the emphasis in the following sentence, it can take on several entirely different meanings and implications:  "I didn't say he beat his wife." I didn't say he beat his wife. I didn't say he beat his […]