Brian Dollar

July 26, 2015

Don't Miss The Cues (VIDEO)

Our kids WANT to talk.  Sometimes, the reason they don’t is because REAL conversation with Mom or Dad isn’t something that they do often.  But, it’s not always THEIR choice.   Too many parents don’t recognize the cues that their children give that are a clear declaration of, “I really want to talk.” Many times our kids want to talk about things that haven’t crossed our minds. Instead of always being focused on the task in front of us or what’s on the radio while we’re driving, parents need to look for the open doors of conversation that their kids are […]
July 15, 2015

MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT About My New Book

I have been working the last two years on my new book, "Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics."  I firmly believe this book is going to be a GAME CHANGER for all Christian Parents! Children today are being bombarded by messages that are contrary to what the Bible teaches. Parents (and grandparents who are now parenting their grandkids) feel completely overwhelmed as they try to navigate the difficult waters of conversation with their kids about very difficult topics.  That’s why I wrote this book!  To help parents and grandparents lead kids through topics like […]
June 25, 2015

"Selfies" Are Sinful! Here's Why...

OK, perhaps I am overstating it JUST a bit!  :-)  But, the "selfie" culture on Social Media is very telling. Much of the time (not ALL, so no hate mail OK?), these selfies are simply a means of saying, "Look at me!  I want attention!"  Everywhere you look on Social Media people are taking pictures of themselves doing the most mundane things in the most elaborate poses – as if the rest of us really want to see this.  "Check out my new shoes!"  "My hair is ON POINT today!"  "Look at these abs, baby!"  It's all about me, me, […]
June 22, 2015

The Two Most Powerful Words A Parent Can Say

Parents mess up.  ALL parents mess up.  Even deeply committed Christian parents mess up.  But, not all parents are willing to admit it.  Two of the most wonderful words children of all ages can hear from parents are, “I'm sorry."  These are also two of the most difficult words for parents to say. Too often, we wrongly believe that in order to have the "upper hand" as a parent, we must be seen as infallible.  We must never admit our mistakes for fear it will show weakness to our children, and they will try to exploit it.  Parents who believe […]
June 1, 2015

T.H.I.N.K. Before You Post/Tweet

Rarely does a day go by when I don't open Social Media and see tweets and posts from Christians that I read and wonder, "Did they even take a nanosecond to think what those who see or read this will think?"  Posts like: “I’ve never met such a hateful & cold-hearted person in my life.” “You know how to put me in the worst mood possible.” “I’ve put up with this [stuff] for too long. I’m tired of it.” “The more you talk, the more convinced I become that pushing you down a set of stairs would solve a lot […]
November 17, 2014

How To Kill An Invisible Gorilla

OK, now before the folks at PETA start picketing my blog - let me explain. Ever heard the expression "monkey on my back"?  It refers to a problem or irritation that just won't seem to go away.  A looming deadline, a staffing issue, a recurring problem.  These "monkeys" can be irritating. However, I am not talking about those little "monkeys" in this blog.  Have you ever woke up with such heaviness, such a weight bearing down on you it's like a 900 lb gorilla sitting on your chest?  You know that you have something huge to face today - a […]
June 23, 2014

Get A FREE Copy Of My New E-Book, "Kidminnovation"

I have been waiting on this day for a long time!  Today, I release my brand new e-book, "Kidminnovation."  (#Kidmin + Innovation = Kidminnovation)  The message of this book has been building in me for many years.  I had the opportunity to speak at INCM's "CM Leaders" event two years ago on this subject.  Ever since, I have had many Kidmin Leaders asking me to write more about it and help them unlock the creativity inside of them. The premise of the book is that EVERYONE has creative potential.  In Kidmin today, I see so many people falling short of their creative […]
April 10, 2012

Computer Brains

I have to admit - as a Christian kid growing up in the 80s I was a big Petra fan.  The other day, the song "Computer Brains" from Petra's "Beat The System" album came on my iPod.  I started thinking about the truth of that song.  It was powerful. Here's the truth:  our minds are like a computer.  Remember the old computer acronym, "GIGO" (Garbage In, Garbage Out)?  You have to be very careful when you program a computer.  Even the smallest error will produce flawed results.  In other words, the results produced by the computer will be no better […]
April 6, 2012

I Started The Process Of Dying Today

I realize I might have startled some of you with the title of this post.  No, I do not have a sickness - nor am I physically dying in any way.  I apologize if I gave some of you a panic. Today, Good Friday, the day we remember the death of our Lord Jesus Christ on the cross over 2,000 years ago - I began a journey with many people in my church.  It is a thirty day challenge called "LIVE DEAD." "LIVE DEAD" is a challenge to live life wholly for Jesus.  To die to self, knowing God will […]
April 3, 2012

Winners of the "I Blew It!" giveaway!

Thanks to all of you who participated in our big giveaway that ended March 31st.  Many of you helped get the word out and many new subscribers were added to the BLOG.  Welcome to everyone!  Here are your winners: Joe Hegedus of New Jersey Nancy Freiling of Virginia Pamela Bartley of Kentucky Neil Hancock of Georgia Lisa Grace Each of them are receiving a FREE copy of my book, "I Blew It!"   If you would like more info about the book, click HERE!  Keep your eyes open for more winning opportunities. In the meantime, help me spread the word […]
January 6, 2012

"I Blew It!" Officially Released!

  I'm very excited to announce that my book, "I Blew It!", officially released this week!  This has been a labor of love that was nearly a year in the making (well, 20 years if you want to be technical LOL).  It chronicles my twenty years in Kids Ministry and all the biggest mistakes I have made - plus offers insight and principles to help YOU avoid those mistakes. I was honored to have one of my heroes, Jim Wideman, write the Foreword for the book.  Jim is a legend in Kids Ministry and has served at some of the […]
December 27, 2011

Making The Most Of Your Mistakes

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you respond when you really blow it?" I am excited to announce that my brand new book, "I Blew It!" will be released next week (you can pre-order it now by clicking here)!  In this book, I document the BIGGEST mistakes I have made in Kids Ministry and how YOU can avoid them.  Since I started talking about writing the book, many have asked me, "How did you keep from giving up when you made such huge mistakes?" or "How were you able to use your biggest mistakes to move forward instead of backward?" It's […]
December 19, 2011

Have You Prayed For Your Pastor Today?

Last week I had the privilege of traveling with my Senior Pastor, Rod Loy, for a very important trip.  We were meeting with some of the leadership of our denomination to discuss the possibility of a VERY cool project that could make a major impact on Kids Ministry.  It was exciting! During that quick, 24 hour trip, I was able to be a "fly on the wall" of sorts and get a glimpse into the kind of pressure my pastor faces on a daily basis.  While I drove, his phone rang almost nonstop.  In that short amount of time he […]
December 14, 2011

Why I Wrote "I Blew It!"

  WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "So, why did you decide to write a book?" - submitted by Aaron in Arkansas Since I announced that I was writing a book several months ago, this question has been asked of me many times.  I will have to admit, I asked it of myself many times - in many various forms. I have read many books relating to Kids Ministry.  There are some that focus solely on practical ministry helps (i.e. Learn To Juggle In 15 Short Lessons or Understanding Your Pre-Teens).  There are others that focus solely on Leadership Lessons (i.e. 12 Habits Of The […]
December 5, 2011

Involving Kids In Ministry

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "I am wanting to get kids more involved in leadership.  Do you use kids to help lead?  If so what have you found works or doesn't work in training them?" - submitted by Chuck in Georgia I am a firm believer of allowing kids to use their God-given talents in areas of ministry.  It is VERY important that children begin serving in ministry as early as possible.  It helps them avoid developing a "church is here to serve me" mentality.  Instead, they focus on serving and leading others as a means of worship. God has, can, and […]
November 28, 2011

The Procrastination Trap

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "I struggle with procrastination.  I'm a spontaneous type of guy.  Do you think that hurts my leadership?" - submitted by David As I’ve talked to hundreds of people involved in kids’ ministries across the country, I’ve observed that there’s an epidemic of procrastination.  We excuse it in all kinds of ways, but all our reasons lead to the same result.  Yes, you have to be quick, and you never know what a kid is going to say or what kind of crazy thing will happen next.  But many kids’ leaders believe their enthusiastic personalities and the spontaneity […]
November 25, 2011

Great Family Project: "The Christmas Prayer Chain"

Looking for a great and easy-to-do project for your family this Christmas?  My wife, Cherith, started this Christmas tradition in our family when my kids were just babies.  It has meant a lot to our family, and I hope you will find it meaningful as well. What you need: 25 strips of construction paper (approx 2 inches wide and six inches long); a sharpie marker; glue What to do: 1)  Prior to Dec. 1st, gather your kids together and take turns naming the name of someone the family will pray for (friends, family, pastors, teachers, and others) 2)  Write one […]
November 14, 2011

Lessons For Kidmin From The Penn State Child Abuse Debacle

The news from the Penn State scandal has dominated the news cycle for the last week, and it has dominated my thoughts as well.  I couldn't believe the heinous crime that was perpetrated on young at-risk boys in such a public place for so long. There are many lessons to learn from this tragedy and it's aftermath.  We spent a good deal of time in our staff meeting today discussing this.  Here are some of the BIG lessons I believe we in Kids Ministry MUST learn from this: 1)  We must be VIGILANT in protecting His children. Every child must […]
October 17, 2011

Discipline In Kidmin pt. 2

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you handle discipline issues at your church?" - submitted by "Anonymous" in Dallas, TX In my last post, I explained what our discipline policies for Kidmin. If you want kids to follow your policy, follow through with established consequences. Consequences help kids own their behavior and teach them to make better choices. Here are the established steps we follow when applying consequences. 1.  Remind the child of the rule they have broken. 2.  Official Warning 3.  Move the child to a different seat 4.  Remove the child from the room (bring them to office) 5.  […]
October 10, 2011

Discipline Issues In Kidmin pt. 1

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you handle discipline issues at your church?" - submitted by "Anonymous" in Dallas, TX Discipline is a hot button issue for people who work with kids.  While public and private school systems have five days a week to instill a discipline plan with students, the church typically has about one hour per week to do the same thing.  It's important to have a clear system in place.  The last thing you want to do is expect volunteers to come up with their own discipline plan without guidance or expectations. Successful Discipline comes down to two […]
October 3, 2011

Does a Kidmin Volunteer have to be a Christian?

KIDMIN QUESTION: "In a small church, it can be difficult to get enough volunteers since you are just starting out.  What do you think about people who aren't Christians volunteering with kids?" - submitted by Dan in Santa Monica, California I understand that many of you will have differing opinions than I have on this subject.  I want you to know that it is OK - and I welcome the discussion.  Please leave comments below.  Let's share our approach and reasons for it. My personal opinion and conviction on this matter is that all volunteers in Kids Ministry should go […]
September 26, 2011

Developing A Heart Of Worship In Kids pt. 2

(CONTINUED FROM PT. 1)  4)  Allow the kids to come around the front. This will help them take the move towards worship. Teach the kids of worshipful positions, (raising hands, closing eyes, etc…), and lead them in praising using these styles.  Let them know that these positions can help them in proclaiming their desire to worship God and focus their attention on Him.  ("I raise my hands as I am reaching out towards God; I kneel in reverence and honor to God’s presence; etc.") 5)  Don’t be afraid to have quiet moments. Often, we are afraid of "dead air".  While […]
September 19, 2011

"Developing A Heart Of Worship In Kids" pt. 1

KIDMIN QUESTION: “We usually do sets of 3 songs, 2 fast and one slower.  We'd like to have extended worship occasionally but how best can we handle that when some of the kids are not mature enough spiritually for more than a few minutes of worship?”  submitted by Dorrie Champagne - Agawam, Massachusetts Worship is an important part of the Christian life.  It is a time of devoted focus toward God, expressing our love to Him.  In order to develop a heart of worship in children who are new in the faith (or young in age), there are some practical […]
September 6, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers pt. 3

picking up where pt. 2 left off - here is the conclusion of my thoughts on recruiting volunteers... 8)  Develop a job description and communicate CLEAR expectations. You can’t expect a volunteer to “just know” what they need to do.   When possible, give a complete list of expectations in writing to avoid confusion.  There is nothing worse than giving someone a job to do and not clearly communicating expectations.  The volunteer has no way to know if they are doing what is expected or not.  This breeds confusion, so communicate expectations ON PAPER so there is no question as to […]
August 29, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers Pt. 2

KIDMIN QUESTION: “When recruiting, how do you help potential volunteers respond out of the right motivation (God honoring, using their gifts, etc) instead of guilt?” - submitted by Donna Leupp in Peshtigo, WI Picking up where Pt. 1 left off - here are more principles to follow when recruiting volunteers for your Kidmin Team... 4)  Develop a ministry application for volunteers to complete. Sit down and put together an application that not only gathers pertinent contact information, but also asks probing questions that give you insight into the person you are considering.  What are their likes/dislikes?  What experience do they have working with kids?  What […]
August 22, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers Pt. 1

KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you get folks in the church to volunteer when they think it is the Children's Pastor's job to do the ministry?" - submitted by Mike Benintende, N. Versailles, PA This is one of the most difficult tasks of a Kidmin Leader - Recruiting Volunteers.  I can tell you, there is no magic formula.  The only way to recruit successfully is by CONTINUOUS hard work and adherence to a few key principles.  In the next few posts, I will share some of those keys that I have learned.  Hopefully they will help you to build a strong team […]
August 8, 2011

Kids Ministry Philosophy

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "What has been the biggest change in your Kids Ministry philosophy in the past 20 years?" - submitted by Jon Warneke of Polson, MT It's hard to believe I am even qualified to answer this question, since to do so means I would have actually had to BE IN Kids Ministry for nearly 20 years.  It's true though - I am officially an OLD MAN! I began my Kids Ministry life in 1992 as a sophomore in College serving at a local church.  I had NO idea what I was doing when it came to leading kids […]
August 1, 2011

Here we go!

I have been asked the same question for several years, "When are you going to start blogging?"  I have always had a lot of different answers.  "I don't have time."  "It's not my thing."  "It's a passing fad."  All true thoughts, but not the real reasons.  Time to come clean. The truth is, I have avoided getting into the BLOGosphere because: 1)  I didn't think I had anything new to add. There are already so many Kidmin bloggers out there like Sam Luce, Tony Kummer, Kenny Conley, Gina McClain, and others.  I wasn't sure that ONE MORE VOICE was needed. […]
July 3, 2011

First Post Is Coming...

That's right!  Subscribe now to be one of the very first of my fellow KidMin Leaders and friends to join me in this journey.  I will post my very first "real" post on August 1, 2011 to explain why I FINALLY started blogging and the purpose of this blog.  So pass the word and subscribe now.  I will be giving away a $200 Web Coupon to use in our web store - highvoltage-kids.com to ONE lucky subscriber.  MUST be subscribed by midnight Eastern, July 31st to be eligible.  Thanks for your support!