For too long, the church has been silent on the issue of SEX. Children (and adults alike) hear little to nothing on the subject of healthy sexuality from the church. Part of the reason it is not spoken about from the pulpit is that it makes us uncomfortable. It makes us uncomfortable because it rarely brought up in the pulpit. It's a self-perpetuating cycle, so we consider it off limits.
Many parents are so paranoid about their kids becoming sexually active, they foolishly think that by not approaching the subject of sex for as long as possible, they will somehow keep them from learning about it and falling into sin. Because it so off limits for their behavior, they’ve made it off limits for their conversation with their kids.
I started the series "How To Talk To Your Kids About ____________" several weeks ago. I have been speaking to the parents of our church about how to have the tough, meaningful conversations with their kids. I have included the outline for the talk, "How To Talk To Your Kids About SEX" below.
“How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex"
1) Sex was created by God. Genesis 8:17
2) Few parents ever give their kids a healthy sex education.
When Talking To Your Kids About Sex:
1) Begin early.
2) Use proper terms, not nick names.
3) Be measured in the amount of information you give.
4) Talk about God as the Creator. Psalm 139:13
5) Schedule the talk.
6) Create a comfortable and safe environment to talk.
8) Keep God as the focus. 1 Corinthians 6:16
9) Be open to using outside resources or illustrations.
10) Clearly express that God has reserved sexual intercourse for marriage alone. Hebrews 13:4
11) Explain that sex is a component of a healthy marriage relationship, not a stand-alone event.
12) Allow your child to ask questions.
13) Encourage your child to keep sexual conversations between you and them.
14) Invite your children into an ongoing conversation.
15) Remember the goal: a lifetime of sexual purity.