KidMin Questions

June 27, 2013

Should Kids Pastors Talk To Their Groups About "Gay Marriage"?

With the news yesterday of the Supreme Court striking down the "Defense Of Marriage Act", the topic of "Gay Marriage" is once again a major story in the news.  No doubt, our kids are hearing all about this topic both on the TV and, many times, on the playground.  It's hard for a Christian parent to control the context in which their child may have conversations regarding this important topic. I received a question yesterday from a fellow Kids Pastor asking my opinion on whether or not he should "address" his Kids Ministry on the topic of Gay Marriage and/or […]
May 6, 2013

The Forgotten Value Of Asking Questions

I have observed over the years many Kidmin Leaders make the mistake of "arriving" in ministry.  They achieve a certain level of "success" and decide they know it all (or at least all they care to know). When this happens, they move into protectionism.  They are constantly trying to protect their reputation as a "knowledgeable and capable leader."  I have watched as these leaders begin to sink because they are not willing to do something that could help them keep rising in leadership - ASK QUESTIONS. Admitting you don't know it all and asking others for their input is difficult […]
December 27, 2011

Making The Most Of Your Mistakes

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you respond when you really blow it?" I am excited to announce that my brand new book, "I Blew It!" will be released next week (you can pre-order it now by clicking here)!  In this book, I document the BIGGEST mistakes I have made in Kids Ministry and how YOU can avoid them.  Since I started talking about writing the book, many have asked me, "How did you keep from giving up when you made such huge mistakes?" or "How were you able to use your biggest mistakes to move forward instead of backward?" It's […]
December 19, 2011

Have You Prayed For Your Pastor Today?

Last week I had the privilege of traveling with my Senior Pastor, Rod Loy, for a very important trip.  We were meeting with some of the leadership of our denomination to discuss the possibility of a VERY cool project that could make a major impact on Kids Ministry.  It was exciting! During that quick, 24 hour trip, I was able to be a "fly on the wall" of sorts and get a glimpse into the kind of pressure my pastor faces on a daily basis.  While I drove, his phone rang almost nonstop.  In that short amount of time he […]
December 14, 2011

Why I Wrote "I Blew It!"

  WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "So, why did you decide to write a book?" - submitted by Aaron in Arkansas Since I announced that I was writing a book several months ago, this question has been asked of me many times.  I will have to admit, I asked it of myself many times - in many various forms. I have read many books relating to Kids Ministry.  There are some that focus solely on practical ministry helps (i.e. Learn To Juggle In 15 Short Lessons or Understanding Your Pre-Teens).  There are others that focus solely on Leadership Lessons (i.e. 12 Habits Of The […]
December 5, 2011

Involving Kids In Ministry

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "I am wanting to get kids more involved in leadership.  Do you use kids to help lead?  If so what have you found works or doesn't work in training them?" - submitted by Chuck in Georgia I am a firm believer of allowing kids to use their God-given talents in areas of ministry.  It is VERY important that children begin serving in ministry as early as possible.  It helps them avoid developing a "church is here to serve me" mentality.  Instead, they focus on serving and leading others as a means of worship. God has, can, and […]
November 28, 2011

The Procrastination Trap

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "I struggle with procrastination.  I'm a spontaneous type of guy.  Do you think that hurts my leadership?" - submitted by David As I’ve talked to hundreds of people involved in kids’ ministries across the country, I’ve observed that there’s an epidemic of procrastination.  We excuse it in all kinds of ways, but all our reasons lead to the same result.  Yes, you have to be quick, and you never know what a kid is going to say or what kind of crazy thing will happen next.  But many kids’ leaders believe their enthusiastic personalities and the spontaneity […]
October 17, 2011

Discipline In Kidmin pt. 2

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you handle discipline issues at your church?" - submitted by "Anonymous" in Dallas, TX In my last post, I explained what our discipline policies for Kidmin. If you want kids to follow your policy, follow through with established consequences. Consequences help kids own their behavior and teach them to make better choices. Here are the established steps we follow when applying consequences. 1.  Remind the child of the rule they have broken. 2.  Official Warning 3.  Move the child to a different seat 4.  Remove the child from the room (bring them to office) 5.  […]
October 10, 2011

Discipline Issues In Kidmin pt. 1

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you handle discipline issues at your church?" - submitted by "Anonymous" in Dallas, TX Discipline is a hot button issue for people who work with kids.  While public and private school systems have five days a week to instill a discipline plan with students, the church typically has about one hour per week to do the same thing.  It's important to have a clear system in place.  The last thing you want to do is expect volunteers to come up with their own discipline plan without guidance or expectations. Successful Discipline comes down to two […]
October 3, 2011

Does a Kidmin Volunteer have to be a Christian?

KIDMIN QUESTION: "In a small church, it can be difficult to get enough volunteers since you are just starting out.  What do you think about people who aren't Christians volunteering with kids?" - submitted by Dan in Santa Monica, California I understand that many of you will have differing opinions than I have on this subject.  I want you to know that it is OK - and I welcome the discussion.  Please leave comments below.  Let's share our approach and reasons for it. My personal opinion and conviction on this matter is that all volunteers in Kids Ministry should go […]
September 26, 2011

Developing A Heart Of Worship In Kids pt. 2

(CONTINUED FROM PT. 1)  4)  Allow the kids to come around the front. This will help them take the move towards worship. Teach the kids of worshipful positions, (raising hands, closing eyes, etc…), and lead them in praising using these styles.  Let them know that these positions can help them in proclaiming their desire to worship God and focus their attention on Him.  ("I raise my hands as I am reaching out towards God; I kneel in reverence and honor to God’s presence; etc.") 5)  Don’t be afraid to have quiet moments. Often, we are afraid of "dead air".  While […]
September 19, 2011

"Developing A Heart Of Worship In Kids" pt. 1

KIDMIN QUESTION: “We usually do sets of 3 songs, 2 fast and one slower.  We'd like to have extended worship occasionally but how best can we handle that when some of the kids are not mature enough spiritually for more than a few minutes of worship?”  submitted by Dorrie Champagne - Agawam, Massachusetts Worship is an important part of the Christian life.  It is a time of devoted focus toward God, expressing our love to Him.  In order to develop a heart of worship in children who are new in the faith (or young in age), there are some practical […]
September 6, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers pt. 3

picking up where pt. 2 left off - here is the conclusion of my thoughts on recruiting volunteers... 8)  Develop a job description and communicate CLEAR expectations. You can’t expect a volunteer to “just know” what they need to do.   When possible, give a complete list of expectations in writing to avoid confusion.  There is nothing worse than giving someone a job to do and not clearly communicating expectations.  The volunteer has no way to know if they are doing what is expected or not.  This breeds confusion, so communicate expectations ON PAPER so there is no question as to […]
August 29, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers Pt. 2

KIDMIN QUESTION: “When recruiting, how do you help potential volunteers respond out of the right motivation (God honoring, using their gifts, etc) instead of guilt?” - submitted by Donna Leupp in Peshtigo, WI Picking up where Pt. 1 left off - here are more principles to follow when recruiting volunteers for your Kidmin Team... 4)  Develop a ministry application for volunteers to complete. Sit down and put together an application that not only gathers pertinent contact information, but also asks probing questions that give you insight into the person you are considering.  What are their likes/dislikes?  What experience do they have working with kids?  What […]
August 22, 2011

Recruiting Volunteers Pt. 1

KIDMIN QUESTION: "How do you get folks in the church to volunteer when they think it is the Children's Pastor's job to do the ministry?" - submitted by Mike Benintende, N. Versailles, PA This is one of the most difficult tasks of a Kidmin Leader - Recruiting Volunteers.  I can tell you, there is no magic formula.  The only way to recruit successfully is by CONTINUOUS hard work and adherence to a few key principles.  In the next few posts, I will share some of those keys that I have learned.  Hopefully they will help you to build a strong team […]
August 8, 2011

Kids Ministry Philosophy

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION: "What has been the biggest change in your Kids Ministry philosophy in the past 20 years?" - submitted by Jon Warneke of Polson, MT It's hard to believe I am even qualified to answer this question, since to do so means I would have actually had to BE IN Kids Ministry for nearly 20 years.  It's true though - I am officially an OLD MAN! I began my Kids Ministry life in 1992 as a sophomore in College serving at a local church.  I had NO idea what I was doing when it came to leading kids […]