Kidmin & Parents

May 8, 2017

"Talk Now And Later" Video Small Group (Special Opportunity)

I am SO THRILLED to be able to share this news with you! Many of you know that last year, I wrote a book called Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics. The book ended up reaching #1 on Amazon in the Christian Families category of New Releases. I have heard countless stories of how the content of the book has helped parents begin and continue many important life-changing conversations about life's toughest topics such as: God, Sex, Death & Tragedy, Divorce, Friendships, and more! Well, ever since the release of the book I have […]
November 9, 2015

4 Dangerously Negative Effects Of Divorce On Children (And What You Can Do About It)

As I’ve worked with children for over twenty years, I’ve repeatedly seen how news of their parents’ divorce shatters their world.  I wasn’t ready to deal with it as an adult (my parents divorced when I was 25), and I’m sure it’s even more difficult for a child to process this world-changing information.  Everything they know, everything they depend on for emotional stability, is lost in an instant.  They may have detected major issues in the parents’ relationship for years, or perhaps one parent was suddenly shocked to discover a history of infidelity for the other.  Whether the decision to […]
September 1, 2015

How To Talk To Kids About Life's Toughest Topics

Children today are being bombarded by messages that are contrary to what the Bible teaches.  As I talk to parents and grandparents, they feel completely overwhelmed as they try to navigate the difficult waters of conversation with their kids about very difficult topics like: God & Spirituality SEX Self-Image Bullying Divorce Death & Tragedy Money Making Wise Choices Friendships Forgiveness That's why I am so excited about my brand new book, “Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life’s Tough Topics.”  You don’t have to GUESS how to communicate with your kids about these subjects.  I have taken my […]
August 15, 2015

Last Chance To Get Autographed Copy of "Talk Now And Later"

I am so excited about the upcoming release of my brand new book, "Talk Now And Later:  How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics" on September 1, 2015.  It's a book I wrote to help parents, grandparents, and anyone who is a spiritual influence in the life of a child to help them navigate the tough conversations about today's "taboo" subjects such as sex, bullying, money, divorce, self-image, and more. I have talked to a lot of people who have read Talk Now and Later.  Many of them expressed feeling encouraged and equipped to guide their child through tough […]
August 9, 2015

The Two Most Important Words A Parent Can Say

Words have power!  They can either lift up or they can tear down!  They can either raise our child's self-esteem or they can destroy it. There are a LOT of words we use as a parent.  Five words I find myself uttering often are, "Go Clean Your Room, Now!"  Three words my kids need to hear every day are, "I Love You!" But, did you know that there are TWO WORDS that, when strung together in a sentence, can create a powerful bond between parent and child?  In fact, these two words are SO powerful that those who refuse to […]
August 2, 2015

Every Conversation Is A Spiritual Conversation

In my twenty-three years as a kids’ pastor, I can’t tell you how many times a parent has walked up to me after church and asked, “My son was asking me questions about baptism last night.  Would you meet with him to explain what water baptism is all about?”  I’ve received countless emails that say something like, “My daughter asked me what it means to be saved.  I don’t want to confuse her, so can I set her up an appointment with you this week?  I’m sure you can explain it better than I can.”  Parents have asked me to […]
July 26, 2015

Don't Miss The Cues (VIDEO)

Our kids WANT to talk.  Sometimes, the reason they don’t is because REAL conversation with Mom or Dad isn’t something that they do often.  But, it’s not always THEIR choice.   Too many parents don’t recognize the cues that their children give that are a clear declaration of, “I really want to talk.” Many times our kids want to talk about things that haven’t crossed our minds. Instead of always being focused on the task in front of us or what’s on the radio while we’re driving, parents need to look for the open doors of conversation that their kids are […]
July 15, 2015

MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT About My New Book

I have been working the last two years on my new book, "Talk Now And Later: How To Lead Kids Through Life's Tough Topics."  I firmly believe this book is going to be a GAME CHANGER for all Christian Parents! Children today are being bombarded by messages that are contrary to what the Bible teaches. Parents (and grandparents who are now parenting their grandkids) feel completely overwhelmed as they try to navigate the difficult waters of conversation with their kids about very difficult topics.  That’s why I wrote this book!  To help parents and grandparents lead kids through topics like […]
June 29, 2015

A Children's Pastor's Response To The Supreme Court Ruling On Same-Sex Marriage

On Friday, June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States determined that marriage between homosexual couples would be legally recognized in all fifty states. No doubt, our kids are hearing all about this topic both on the TV and, many times, on the playground.  It’s hard for any parent to control the context in which their child may have conversations regarding this important topic. Many Christian parents have struggled with the question, “How do I talk to my kids about this?” Likewise, many Children’s Pastors have struggled with the question, “What is my responsibility in this? Should I […]
June 22, 2015

The Two Most Powerful Words A Parent Can Say

Parents mess up.  ALL parents mess up.  Even deeply committed Christian parents mess up.  But, not all parents are willing to admit it.  Two of the most wonderful words children of all ages can hear from parents are, “I'm sorry."  These are also two of the most difficult words for parents to say. Too often, we wrongly believe that in order to have the "upper hand" as a parent, we must be seen as infallible.  We must never admit our mistakes for fear it will show weakness to our children, and they will try to exploit it.  Parents who believe […]
June 16, 2015

How Do You Handle Father's Day For The Kid Without A Dad?

As the father of two amazing kids, I love Father's Day.  Being a father is one of the greatest and most rewarding things that I have ever experienced.  I love taking pictures with my kids, getting gifts and cards, and celebrating the father/child bond on that third Sunday in June.  It's a special day for me and for countless others. In recent years, however, I have become increasingly aware that a large number of children in my Kids Ministry do NOT look forward to Father's Day.  For some, it is because they have lost their father to death.  I have several […]
May 26, 2015

1 BIG Reason Why Your Kids Won't Listen

"I am so sick and tired of my child not listening to me!  I try my hardest to share my wisdom with them in order to help them avoid pain in life, and they completely tune me out!"  Ever said those words?  If so, you are like MOST parents.  So many parents feel like they have more success talking to a brick wall than to their child (especially their teenager).  Part of the reason for that is the tendency for parents to "talk down" to their kids. One of the most important principles about talking with kids is to avoid being […]
April 27, 2015

Parents Allow Four Year Old Girl To Become A Boy

Meet "Jacob."  Born as a beautiful baby girl named Mia, "Jacob" began expressing the desire to be a boy.  Mia didn't like dressing like a girl or being called a girl.  So, after a period of painful, thoughtful deliberation, Mia's parents decided to help her transition to a boy.  My heart breaks for the family, as I am certain this decision was very difficult for them.  You can watch a video of their entire story HERE. Transgender children are becoming more and more common.  I don't pretend to be an expert on the subject, but I do want to ask a few […]
November 24, 2014

Family Advent Project: "Christmas Prayer Chain"

Looking for a great and easy-to-do project for your family this Christmas?  My wife, Cherith, started this Christmas tradition in our family when my kids were just babies.  It has meant a lot to our family, and I hope you will find it meaningful as well.  I have had several requests to post this again, so here you go: "CHRISTMAS PRAYER CHAIN" What you need: 25 strips of construction paper (approx 2 inches wide and six inches long); a sharpie marker; glue What to do: 1)  Prior to Dec. 1st, gather your kids together and take turns naming the name […]
October 7, 2014

10 Principles To Help Kids Make WISE Choices

We all want our kids to be wise.  We train them, talk to them, model for them, do everything we can to instill Godly wisdom and practical intelligence in their minds.  We spend eighteen years (sometimes more) monitoring their every move, correcting when necessary, and preparing for the day we will set them free to go out into the world and make a life of their own. We hope and trust that the scripture we have quoted numerous times throughout our trials and tribulations of parenthood will come true: “Train up a child in the way he should go and […]
September 10, 2014

A Helpful Resource To Help Teach Young Children About Creation

Throughout their academic life, children will have to face the onslaught of scientific theories, teachers, professors, and peers who will pressure them into leaving behind the "primitive and uneducated" belief that Earth was created by Almighty God.  A recent Gallup poll reveals that over 60% of Americans believe in the theory of evolution - many of them believing that it is the PRIMARY explanation for where life on Earth comes from.   Earlier this year, Ken Ham, a well-known Christian apologist debated the outspoken evolutionist, Bill Nye (the Science Guy).  It was a classic  (and public) Creation-versus-Evolution debate.  Nye is more […]
September 7, 2014

How To Handle Parents Who Don't Attend Your Church

Some time ago, one of the children who attends our church (but his parents do not) told me, "I didn’t come last week because my dad doesn't think it’s important.” I recognized what he was doing.  I asked him, “Did your dad actually say that he doesn't think church is important?” The boy said, “Well, no, but since he didn’t bring me, he must have something against me coming.” I quickly responded, “Wait a minute.  We can’t draw that conclusion.  Give your dad a break.  I’m sure he was just busy and couldn’t make his schedule work out.  After all, […]
August 20, 2014

5 Things Every Ministry Leader Should Be Doing With Their Family

This week I got an email from a fellow Kids Pastor.  It said, "How hard do you push your children? On those days when someone from the church has been extremely rude, or when a party took place on a Saturday night and Sunday morning my kids show up and have to clean before worship service can even begin, or when they are just plain TIRED. Everyone gets frustrated from time to time because we are dealing with humans.  How do I, as a mother, know when I'm pushing them too hard.  The LAST thing I want is for them […]
August 13, 2014

What If Your Family Were Shot With 3,192 Paintballs In 5.3 Seconds?

This would be a ludicrous question - if it hadn't actually happened to this family!  It was all done to prove a point - a POWERFUL point!  Watch below and you will understand what I mean... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B7t85SESTXI#t=100 Movies these days are often filled with gratuitous language, violence, nudity, and suggestive material.  It can be almost impossible for the family to sit down and watch a movie together without being subjected to all of this content.  Well, the people over at VidAngel have innovated the Family Movie Night.  They have introduced a streaming service that allows YOU to be in control of […]
August 4, 2014

Talking To Kids About SEX

There is a long held belief in many circles that there are certain subjects that should not be mentioned at church or from the pulpit.  They are “reserved for the home.”  There are two problems with that whole frame of reference. Shouldn’t SEX Talk Be Reserved For The Home? 1)     SEX was created by God. The idea that sex should not be discussed in church flies in the face of the fact that SEX is a beautiful gift, created by God, for the purpose of giving a husband and wife an intimate physical way of connecting and expressing their love […]
June 27, 2014

Have you seen the "POWER BIBLE?"

I was recently introduced to the "POWER BIBLE."  It is a resource that was produced by Green Egg Media.  It is an amazing new children's Bible that uses an Asian comics style artwork.  I must say, I am impressed. There are several highlights to this resource that I want to point out: 1.  The artwork is stellar. 2.  It's well-executed and set in a format that kids will "eat up." 3.  It gives kids a tool to use to share the truth of God's Word with their friends. 4.  It can be used as a great devotional tool for kids. […]
May 26, 2014

5 Keys To Remember When A Child Has A SERIOUS Prayer Request

"Pastor Sharon, will you pray for my Dad?  He just got arrested for doing something really bad to my sister." These words are devastating to any Kids Ministry Leader.  Sadly, in the society in which we live - these words have become much more common than any of us want to admit.  How you and your Kids Ministry volunteers handle situations like this could be absolutely KEY to the long-term spiritual, physical, and emotional health of the child involved. This past week, I taught my Kids Ministry staff about communicating with kids one-on-one.  One of the questions I covered was: […]
May 7, 2014

What Your Kids Can Learn From Kevin Durant

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a HUGE Dallas Mavericks fan (yes, I am fully aware of how bad we lost in Game 7 to the Spurs, LOL)!  Two of our biggest rivals are the San Antonio Spurs and the Oklahoma City Thunder.  I have always admired Kevin Durant as a player, but his acceptance speech for winning the 2014 MVP of the NBA took my respect for him to a whole new level. It's not often you see someone at his level truly appreciate those who got him there.  I normally hate watching acceptance speeches because the […]
May 6, 2014

How To Talk To Kids About DEATH And TRAGEDY

I remember exactly where I was the day the Columbine Massacre happened in 1999.  I couldn’t believe the news.  Never before had we seen that kind of devastation and tragedy on a school campus.  Years later, I remember exactly where I was the moment I learned of the horrific tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut.  I was shocked at the death toll, rocked by the devastation that had been caused by this killer who took the lives and futures of so many innocent children. Perhaps you remember the thoughts that went through your mind.  Like many, you might have had the thought, […]
April 22, 2014

Can I Be A Good Dad & Pastor?

GUEST POST by Michael Bayne (of ParentMinistry.net) This is a post that I struggle writing because there is no way I am getting nominated for “Dad of the Year.”  I am learning on the go the same way all the rest of you are as parents.  The question I am wrestling with is can I be a good pastor and dad? I ask the question because I know every pastor, minister, and lead volunteer out there wonders if they are giving the best they have to the ministry they lead at church and ministry God has given them at home.  […]
February 12, 2014

"Heaven Is For Real" - Movie Review

I was honored to be sent a "screener" version of the upcoming film, "Heaven Is For Real."   I have to admit, I had not read the book, so I was coming from a completely open-minded position.  I was thoroughly impressed. This is, by far, one of the most entertaining, moving, and professional "Christian" movies I have ever seen.  Greg Kinnear (Oscar nominated actor) turns in a very emotional performance as Todd Burpo, a father/pastor who is faced with whether or not to believe his son's account of his "visit to Heaven."  The cast is solid, the acting is stellar, […]
January 29, 2014

Disney Channel Introduces First Lesbian Couple On A Kids' Show

Yesterday, I posted on my Facebook page a link to an article about Disney Channel introducing it's first lesbian couple on a kids' show.  My goal was to share something that many may not have been aware of and to see what parents and Kids Ministry leaders thought about this decision by Disney and their show, "Good Luck, Charlie."  I got a lot of reaction - on both sides of the issue. Rather than respond to each comment, I thought it would be better if I fleshed out my thoughts here on the blog.  So, here are my random thoughts […]
January 19, 2014

How To Talk To Kids About God

Recently, I spoke to our entire congregation about "How To Talk To Kids About God."  It seems that parents and grandparents have mystified the idea of having spiritual conversations about God.  They feel that they must have a Bachelor's Degree in Children's Education in order to have the expertise necessary to speak clearly to their children about the things of God. Unfortunately, we are often to blame.  For too long, the Church (and Children's Ministry Leaders specifically) has poised itself as "the official spiritual trainer of children."  This is definite far from the Biblical case that I lay out in the […]
December 5, 2013

Eight Effective Ways To Partner With Parents

Family Ministry is slowly becoming the norm rather than the exception in the nation's growing churches.  Kids Ministry Leaders are finally coming to the realization that God has not called them to be the "Superhero" and primary spiritual in the lives of the children in their church.  Instead, they are recognizing the need to partner with parents, equipping them to step into their God-given role as primary spiritual leaders in the lives of their kids. You may ask, "But how?"  Many churches WANT to start this process of partnering with parents, but just have no idea where to start.  While […]
November 25, 2013

Why I Won't Pray The "Sinner's Prayer" With Your Child

If you have been in Kids Ministry for very long, no doubt you have encountered this scenario already.  Church is over, a parent walks up and says, "Johnny was asking me questions about how to get saved last night.  Would you explain what salvation is all about and pray with him to receive Christ?”  For many years, I have the standard answer... "No, I won't." Now that you've decided I am a terrible Kids Pastor, let me explain.  When I first began in Kids Ministry, I would have answered differently.  After all, I was the resident "expert" on children’s spiritual […]
October 24, 2013

They Are Not JUST Kids!

My friend, Mike Johnson (Director of Childhood Leadership Development at Fellowship Church in Grapevine, TX) recently posted this message.  It is a powerful reminder that every parent has the small window of opportunity to impact their kids for the Kingdom.  In fact, the window is even smaller than you might think.  Enjoy this message from Mike and be CHALLENGED to make the most of every opportunity you have with the children you serve! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEsqAs_LiZY#t=17
October 16, 2013

My Child Was Caught Looking At Pornography! What Do I Do?

I received a tough email from a ministry friend this week.  It said, "I found out Sunday night that an 11 year old girl from my children's church is addicted to porn. I am totally shocked because she seemed so quiet and shy, I would like to know how to approach her and minister to her." Unfortunately, this is a situation that happens more often than we would like to admit.  With the literal explosion of technology (including hand-held mobile devices) in the world of kids in the last five years, children are being exposed (sometimes even accidentally through pop-ups […]
September 30, 2013

How To Improve Safety And Security In Your Kids Ministry

One of the greatest needs and focuses of any Kids Ministry should be that of safety and security.  After all, we are entrusted with the most precious lives that mean the world to every parent who drops them off in our care.  If we do not do our due diligence in providing a safe a secure environment for the children, then we are not demonstrating the value that we claim to place on them. Many of you are aware of my friends at KidCheck.  Well, they have developed a powerful child safety video and guide for organizations caring for children.  […]
August 19, 2013

Ashton Kutcher Has A Message For Your Kids

Hollywood is known for sending the WRONG messages to our kids.  They promote a false sense of success, what it takes to get there, and what the definition of "sexy" is.  I was completely surprised when I saw this speech given by Ashton Kutcher at the Teen Choice Awards 2013. Now, let me first say this - I am in NO WAY endorsing Ashton Kutcher, his lifestyle, or his ability to be a strong and positive influence for children.  However, I think his words were refreshing and in many ways shocking among a Hollywood that rarely sends positive messages to […]
July 3, 2013

New "Kid Bible Heroes" App - Kids Just Can't Put It Down!

The Kid Bible Heroes interactive app for kids features youngsters living out grown-up faith that will build your kids’ trust in God. Each narrated Bible story pauses for games, fun sound effects and interactive animation. Available in English, Spanish and Portuguese. With the Kid Bible Heroes app, your kids can learn about ordinary kids in the Bible who were used by God to do extraordinary things.  The app features five Bible stories about everyday heroes like David, Miriam, Samuel, Mary, and the young boy with the fishes and loaves.  Through their interactive stories, your kids will learn about God's plan […]
June 27, 2013

Should Kids Pastors Talk To Their Groups About "Gay Marriage"?

With the news yesterday of the Supreme Court striking down the "Defense Of Marriage Act", the topic of "Gay Marriage" is once again a major story in the news.  No doubt, our kids are hearing all about this topic both on the TV and, many times, on the playground.  It's hard for a Christian parent to control the context in which their child may have conversations regarding this important topic. I received a question yesterday from a fellow Kids Pastor asking my opinion on whether or not he should "address" his Kids Ministry on the topic of Gay Marriage and/or […]
June 12, 2013

Incredible New Album and App By YANCY

Yancy just came out with a brand new CD and now she has an amazing app that accompanies it.  (if you want to get a SPECIAL package deal on this new CD and more, CLICK HERE) When Yancy recorded her newest album Roots for the Journey she knew these songs were special. The music, organic, unplugged and simple was something that adults of all ages would be eager to listen to again and again. The message in the songs timeless because each song is centered on scriptures from God’s Word. Yancy spends most of her time doing family concerts and making music and worship resources […]
May 21, 2013

"Helping Kids Deal With The Tornado Tragedy"

We are all in shock and disbelief about the tornado tragedy in Moore, OK this week.  Like many, you might have had the thought, “Wow.  That could have happened here.”  And, it’s true.  Tragedy knows no boundaries.  It does not discriminate between people.  Tragedy can hit any community, any family, any individual, at any time. Aside from tornados - there are mass shootings, terrorist attacks, Earthquakes, and other tragedies that eventually strike every family.  The death of a loved one.  An accident that permanently injures someone.  The sudden loss of income due to layoffs or being fired.  These are the […]
May 16, 2013

How Is Digital Media Affecting Our Kids?

I came across an incredible infographic this week (see below).  I thought you would be interested in what it shares.  We all hear about how video games, television, and other forms of digital media are keeping our kids locked in their homes and causing them to become obese, lethargic, and lazy. Well, although there are certainly dangers - the key word is balance!  Parents must be vigilant in what kind of time their child spends in front of their digital playground.  But, teachers seem to think that using all kinds of technology in the classroom is going to be the […]
April 1, 2013

Book Review: "Connecting Church & Home" by Dr. Tim Kimmel

"Strong churches don't make strong families.  Strong families make strong churches." - Dr. Tim Kimmel What is the center of your Family Ministry strategy?  Is it safety and protection from the dark influences of this world?  Is it reaching unchurched families through evangelism?  What drives your ministry to kids and families? Dr. Tim Kimmel offers a one word answer in his new book, "Connecting Church & Home." That one word:  GRACE.  Dr. Kimmel suggests that God's grace can and should be what encompasses everything we do as a church - especially ministering to families. Kimmel begins with the book with a challenging […]